Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Helping Yourself To A Friend's Refrigerator

Dear Charles the Butler:
When I go to my best friend home I never hesitate to go into their refrigerator and help myself to get something to drink.  My husband says that this is absolutely not done and is rude and I must stop doing this.  I grew up in a big family where this was normal, what do you think?

Well I’m sorry to say, I am definitely on your husband’s side on this one.  A best friend who you see all of the time is one thing, but going into their refrigerator and just helping yourself if plane wrong.  What if you eat something they are preparing for dinner later that night?  What if you eat something that is a left over that they are saving for a midnight snack?  Even though my mother has never said no to me, and I haven’t lived at home for the past 25 years, I still always ask if she minds if I can have something (food or beverage) from her refrigerator.  For me it’s just a position of politeness and making sure my mom isn’t saving it for anything.

1 comment:

  1. Plain wrong is right. The inquiry makes me laugh. Do we ever lose our status as "guest" in a friend's home? And when does that happen? If you're unsure, then you're still a guest, so act like it. If you've been told to "help yourself", maybe the reins are loosened, but the polite thing to do would be to ask first. One mistake may be all one needs to learn the lesson.